Once I had my second kid, my life went to shambles. I was trying to hold onto a life that was no longer possible. Constantly cleaning, cooking dinner every night, working out 3 times a week, having date night, planning creative and interesting lessons for my students, and finding time to watch my favorite Real Housewives episode all became too much.
As days turned into weeks and weeks into months, my sanity was slowly dissipating. By the end of each week, I was worn out. I was tired and wondering how could I go through another week with the lack of understanding, kindness, and love I knew I needed to be the mom, wife and friend I wanted to be.
I was turning into a monster. A monster that wanted to do it all but couldn’t. I was drowning in a sea of mommyhood, work and sickness. All I wanted was a lifeboat to get me through to the next week but there was none to be found.
After some meltdowns (adults can have tantrums too), hours of talking with my husband Ian (he was feeling just as overwhelmed as me), and much reflection, I came to the realization that something needed to change.
I needed to find balance. If you've read a bit about my life and how 801eats came about, you'll quickly see that I had been struggling with the new me. My life, as I've explained many times, was chaotic. While the chaos drove me to a darkness I don't want to repeat, it was also the wake up call I needed. It was the slap in the face I needed to take the necessary steps to find the much needed balance my life was so badly needing.
With a new mindset and understanding, I found that in order to find that needed balance, I had to learn that I needed to prioritize my time. Attempting to do it all meant I did everything "just good enough." Truthfully, no one benefited from my inability to say, "No, not right now" or, "I need help."
So what did I do to start finding balance? I decided to set goals. Goals focusing on my health, family, work, and personal satisfaction. My 5 monthly goals were the points of my life that received my focus. Was I still going to try and clean the house even though it was not on my goal sheet? Of course! But was I going to have a break down or lose my cool because I left the house a disaster zone? No.
I came to accept that doing 5 things well was much better for my health and sanity than trying to do it all poorly.
While I’ve been setting monthly goals for a while now, I have yet to share them with you. So here it goes. I’m going to share my goals and keep you updated on how it goes. To be honest, there are many months where I only achieve half of my goals. There have also been months I've achieved none. But in the end I feel so much better having clear and concise parts of my life that I want to improve rather than running through life trying to achieve it all and actually achieving nothing. Again, it all comes down to balance and constantly re-evaluating what does my life need right now?
On a weekly basis, I’ll let you know what I’m doing to reach my goals; what’s working and what’s not. As I've said before, it's all a journey. A journey towards balance.
Whether it's through nutrition, mindfulness, spending more time with family, setting monthly goals, or just finding the things that make us happy in life, finding balance is the ultimate goal. Join me as I try and find balance in my own life... Read More
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"The critical part of balance in life is choosing priorities. If you are trying to balance a family and a career, the choices are complex because both are important."